Love, Mom planted 3 trees in memory of Charlene Gapp

Monday, January 16, 2023

Hopefully a lasting memorial to a wonderful, kind, gentle soul. You made the world a better place for all of us!

Marilyn Medvecky planted 3 trees in memory of Charlene Gapp

Wednesday, January 11, 2023

Charlene, you are loved by all who know you

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Friday, March 17, 2023

Patricia Alessio Posted Mar 17, 2023 at 9:13 AM

Charlene's favorite St. Patrick's Day Blessing! Easy to remember, too! :)

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Saturday, February 25, 2023

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Monday, February 6, 2023

A photo of Charlene in Cold Spring Harbor, December 13, 2014. A wonderful day for a visit! <3 She always loved Christmas shopping over there!

Patricia Alessio Posted Feb 25, 2023 at 9:43 AM

This was during her wonderful 5-year remission, between 2013 through 2018. Such a blessing! ❤️

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Sunday, February 5, 2023

Here is one of my favorite photos of Charlene. It would have been during one of many Renaissance Faires she attended. So sweet! <3.

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Friday, January 13, 2023

Charlene & Kayleigh came to visit us in Long Island, in October, after an appointment. Didn't get a photo of Kay. Charlene loved the Fall season!

Patricia Alessio Posted Jan 25, 2023 at 1:27 PM

Actually, I remember it was early November. :)

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Friday, January 13, 2023

Here is a photo from Charlene's Sister Karen's wedding. Karen, Tricia, Charlene & Kayleigh, back in 2008. A great memory!

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Saturday, January 7, 2023

With Charlene, Christmas was always the Most Wonderful Time of the Year! She even made a lot iof her own ornaments!

Christina Gapp posted a condolence

Sunday, January 1, 2023

My sweet Char, You were incredible. You lived your life with dignity and grace and I never heard a complaint from you about the challenges you faced. I admired your strength and courage. You had a beautiful spirit and you never had a bad thing to say about anyone. I was so blessed to have you in my life. So proud to call you my daughter-in-law. It was a blessing to know you and have you in our family. Thank you for loving my baby. You made her very happy. You were the perfect pair. I will always love you and cherish your memory. So now, suffer no more. Fly high with the angels my sweet Char. Fly high❤️

Patricia Alessio Posted Jan 1, 2023 at 5:46 PM

Beautiful, Chris! They were really so great together. I will miss my Baby Girl so much, until we meet again.

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Sunday, January 1, 2023

To Charlene, one of my oldest and dearest friends, and keeper of some of my most cherished and fondest memories growing up—I’ll never forget us trick or treating until we became a little too old, obsessively playing Redemption when we probably should have tried out some other card games, the REN FAIRES (fried oranges, need I say more), trekking through the woods with your bunny and he somehow not escaping, drawing comics in the hallways which totally made us the cool kids, and eating your tasty desserts! We bonded over our love of manga and introversion, but I always wished the world could see how brilliant of a writer you were and how creative your mind was. Even though you were one of the smartest people I knew, you also had such a generous spirit and the kindest heart. I’m sorry this world was so cruel to you, and took you too soon. You were a beautiful person inside and out, and though you’re gone you will never be forgotten. All my love, Sunny

Patricia Alessio Posted Jan 1, 2023 at 8:08 AM

Thank you, Sunny!!! <3 Beautiful!

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Sunday, January 1, 2023

I don't exactly know what to say right now; I guess to be honest I was so used to you surviving against all odds I sort of started to forget anything else could ever happen. I'm sorry that sounds weird, I don't really know how to phrase it. While I'm sad we never really visited in person in the last couple decades, it was nice still to talk over the internet at least. It was fun showing you photos of flowers and animals from my neighborhood, I'm sorry I won't be able to do that anymore. I'll post this photo of the purple flower, since it's the final image I got to show you; I'm sorry I was never able to answer what kind of flower it was. It's kind of sad but maybe poetic in a way that pretty much the last images you ever showed me were also of purple flowers. I won't forget you Cousin. Goodbye for now.

Patricia Alessio Posted Jan 1, 2023 at 2:36 AM

Thank you, Dave! That was very sweet! Charlene would love it! <3

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Saturday, December 31, 2022

I'm so sorry that you are gone. You were my go to for so many things. We love you and miss you. Isabelle and John.

Patricia Alessio Posted Jan 1, 2023 at 2:41 AM

Thank you, Isabelle and John! You have been so supportive, and we appreciate that so much! <3. 2Re7e

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Saturday, December 31, 2022

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Saturday, December 31, 2022

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Saturday, December 31, 2022

Beth Miller posted a condolence

Saturday, December 31, 2022

Charlene was such an amazing cousin to look up to. I remember when I was a little girl seeing her embroidering in the corner chair of grandma’s living room, and when I wanted to know what she was making she showed me it was Link! (Of “Legend of Zelda” fame). I thought that was so cool, and her work was amazing to me. As someone who has grown up to enjoy such interests (such as fiber arts and game characters) and just wish there was more time to talk about them together. Miss you, cousin. You were one of the best.

Patricia Alessio Posted Jan 1, 2023 at 2:46 AM

Thank you, Beth! This is so sweet!

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Friday, December 30, 2022

Charlene, My heart hurts that you’re gone. You and Kayleigh were best friends since I was a baby. You’ve always been a part of our family and I’ve always thought of you as a sister. And then when you and Kayleigh started dating, it just felt like you had a love stronger than most. It really felt like you two were made for each other. Well, you really did become my sister the day you two got married and here are some of my favorite pictures from that day! You can really see how much love and happiness you brought into not only Kayleigh’s life, but all of our lives. We will miss you so much and I’m so thankful we were able to go on vacation together this summer. Sofia and Emilia got to spend so much fun quality time with their aunts and it gave us beautiful memories that we will always cherish. I just wish it never had to end. We will ALWAYS love you! Love, Dayna, Ole, Sofia, & Emilia.

Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 30, 2022 at 11:57 PM

Thank you, Dayna! So many beautiful memories. We will see her again, in a better place. ❤

Jennifer Hollon posted a condolence

Friday, December 30, 2022

Dear Charlene, You were truly the best person, a perfect wife for Kayleigh and a perfect addition to our family. It feels like you were always a part of the family, and I know that you always will be. We all love you and we all miss you already. This is not fair, but you took it all with such grace. Thank you for just being you--you've impacted lives that I'm not even sure that you knew you touched. Jon remembers you and is saddened to hear of your passing as we all are. Rest in peace, sweet Charlene. We love you and Kay.

Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 31, 2022 at 12:01 AM

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Thursday, December 29, 2022

Dear Charlene, It was my absolute pleasure to get to know you. You were always so lovely and sweet to be around. I immensely enjoyed seeing and getting to appreciate your crafts and arts. I will always treasure the pink hat you made for me. I wear it often in the cold mornings and am so grateful for having it. Thank you for your kindness, love and for being such awesome host. I wish you the best afterlife has to offer. Until next time :wave:

Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 29, 2022 at 10:48 PM

Thank you, OV! <3

Mary Gapp posted a condolence

Wednesday, December 28, 2022

Dear Charlene, I love you. I admired your many talents, your kindness to all my family and your love for my granddaughter Kayleigh. Rest In Peace. Love, Nana

Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 29, 2022 at 6:15 AM

Thank you, Nana! We all love you, too ! Have a Blessed New Year!

Ali Williams -Rodriguez planted a tree in memory of Charlene Gapp

Tuesday, December 27, 2022

In memory of Charlene. She was so sweet and kind.

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Tuesday, December 27, 2022

A n example of Charlene's original artwork, from 2015.

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Monday, December 26, 2022

My Dear Charlene, We've wrote each other years of letters, postcards, and greeting cards... with too many words (and doodles) squished into the writing space. Never enough space to say everything we want to tell each other, right?! Well, this tearful letter is very painful to write. But I know you'll read it because digital letters go directly to Heaven, obviously. That makes me feel a tiny bit better. I know you didn't want a fuss, but this tribute is bursting with love, from all of us who refuse to forget you. We will remember your kind heart, warmth, creative and giving nature, your humor, your laugh, your encouragement and cheering us on even when I know you, yourself, were dealing with so much. I'll wear my pastel blue hand warmers you made with pride. I'll hug Kayleigh double next time I see her. I'll try to keep the attitude of love and gratitude you displayed. I will hold the memories of thirty years of friendship in my heart. Always, until one day, we meet again.

Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 27, 2022 at 2:37 PM

Thank you so much, CH! This is such a special tribute to the sweetness of Charlene. Thank you for reminding us that digital letters head straight to Heaven! I love my green hand warmers, and hat, and crocheted blanket! Have a Blessed New Year! Please give your family a hug from us!

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Sunday, December 25, 2022

To our dearest Charlene. You are the bravest, wisest, kindest person I will ever know. You accepted everyone for who they were with grace and love, even when it wasn't really deserved. You put up with so much over the years, without complaint. You deserved so much better, but always took what you were given and somehow turned it into something beautiful. Your memory is all around us: in the ridiculous memes, in the rainbows, in the drawings, in the lemon lush, in the millionth re-watch of Labyrinth, in the mummy bread, and in the love. Thanks for being my friend. Love you forever, Katie

Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 25, 2022 at 8:39 PM

Katie, this is such a beautiful tribute! I am so thankful you all knew each other! Everyone has such wonderful memories of Charlene! Merry Christmas to you and your family! <3.

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Saturday, December 24, 2022

Charlene loved making Christmas ornaments!

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Saturday, December 24, 2022

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Friday, December 23, 2022

Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 26, 2022 at 8:15 AM

Thank you, Aunt Mary! What a lovely photo! <3

Karen Crandall posted a condolence

Friday, December 23, 2022

Charlene, It is so hard to believe you were taken from us so soon. I was hoping so much we would be able to organize a family reunion, and all you cousins would be able to see each other again. My favorite memory of you was when we were all at the lake one summer, and you were so wonderful to Christy. She reveled in your attention, and she loved the little tie-dyed socks you bought for her. That summer you were working on a beautiful embroidery that you had designed, and I was amazed at your talent. You fought your illness with such courage, strength, and patience that you were an inspiration to us all. I wish you could have heard the love and pride in your mother's voice when she talked about you. You were a fantastic daughter and friend to her. Kayleigh, thank you so much for your devotion to Charlene, and for the way you fought for her when she needed your support in dealing with various doctors and hospitals. I have often included you in my prayers for Charlene, and I will continue to pray for you as your grieve her loss. With love, Aunt Karen

Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 24, 2022 at 3:15 AM

Thank you, Karen! That is just Beautiful! A great description of how precious Charlene was. ❤

Mary Gapp posted a condolence

Friday, December 23, 2022

Charlene’s memory will be a blessing for our family and for anyone who knew her and loved her. I always admired how open and comfortable Kayleigh and Charlene were with each other. They had a true and deep and fabulous love! Charlene was a beautiful light in this world. My heart aches for my dear niece, Kayleigh. Love, Aunt Mary

Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 24, 2022 at 3:16 AM

Thank you, Aunt Mary! This is Beautiful! ❤

Andrew Alessio posted a condolence

Friday, December 23, 2022

Thank you, Charlene. You held an abundance of human decency, grace and kindness, too much for one person, and so you rightly shared it generously with the world. Not a day went by that you did not help others, and no matter how much you may have needed help yourself, you would not seek it, nor expect it, nor even accept it without insistance, and invariably whatever we did in kind for you was lesser than you deserved; in the balance we will always and forever be in your debt. Thank you so much for teaching others, organizing them, and lending the benefit of your subtle wisdom to problems no one else would think to solve as elegantly as you could, and so often did, before anyone else had realized they were problems. You should have been louder; you always knew better than anyone else in the room, but were too gentle to make anyone feel lesser than. Perhaps too often you let foolishness pass in loving silence and a reserved smile. Thank you for your constant creativity, and for deploying your utmost ardent effort in every single thing you did, so that even the most banal items or gorgeous decorations you made and shared were always imbued with interminable beauty and perfection as orginal art worth displaying proudly and holding close forever. Thank you for leaving so much of yourself behind for us to cherish and remember you by, and doing so much more with your time than you had any obligation to do. You led a life of service that others should and must emulate, so that maybe the world will have been a little less awful because you were in it. You will be missed, but thankfully, you aren't gone. Andrew

Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 23, 2022 at 10:21 PM

Thank you, Andrew! That is so true, and so well expressed!

Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 27, 2022 at 3:54 PM

Here is a small example of her original art. See link in next text box....

Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 27, 2022 at 3:56 PM

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Karen Szewczyk posted a condolence

Friday, December 23, 2022

Charlene was one of the nicest people that I've had a chance to work with. She was always so positive and so funny. I'll miss her presence at work.

Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 23, 2022 at 10:22 PM

Thank you, Karen. ❤

Patricia Gapp posted a condolence

Friday, December 23, 2022

Dear sweet Charlene there is a hole in our family now that can never be filled. It seems like you’ve been “one of us” forever. You were a fierce warrior in this fight with your fierce advocate Kayleigh by your side. You were so brave. It’s hard to believe you’re gone. You were smart, kind, funny, and so talented. I will miss you sweet Charlene. Love you, Aunt Patty

Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 23, 2022 at 7:19 PM

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Maura Posted Dec 23, 2022 at 9:35 PM

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Friday, December 23, 2022

Good times

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Friday, December 23, 2022

To our dearest Charlene. You were the sweetest, kindest, most considerate and loving person we have ever met. We’ve known you for what seems like forever, but it was way too short. We always thought of you as a daughter and just can’t begin to imagine life without you being here. It just doesn’t seem real. Many people say this, but there is no one that this applies to more than you -- The world is a better place because of You and we are all better people because of You. You and Kayleigh always seemed to be one and we thank you for being such an integral part of Kayleigh’s life. You were both the best support for each other and your love was endless. Charlene, you will be sorely missed … forever. Love always. Chris & Jim

Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 23, 2022 at 1:09 PM

Beautiful! Thank you for putting inexpressible feelings into words. Charlene will be forever loved and missed by all who knew her. ❤ May she rest in peace.

Carla Theimer posted a condolence

Friday, December 23, 2022

Charlene, while I haven’t spoken directly with you recently, I have prayed for you regularly and been awed by your courage in facing trial after trial. I still see you as an adorable little girl of three or four with a beautiful head of thick curly hair and an impish way of peering round the corner at Grandma’s house. It’s a small thing, but your mom would pass on your scores in Wordle and Minicross, and you usually beat all of us. I’m going to miss that. Kayleigh, my sincerest condolences. We do appreciate what good care you took of Charlene and the love you had for her. ~Aunt Carla

Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 23, 2022 at 4:45 PM

Thank you, Carla, that was Beautiful! When I did Wordle this morning, I knew she would have gotten the answer in 3 . ❤

Rich & Carl posted a condolence

Friday, December 23, 2022

Oh Kayleigh… We are so saddened to hear of Charlene’s passing and so sorry. Please accept our condolences and love. Charlene was truly a bright light in this world and she will be missed. Please also take solace in that she is at peace. There are no more struggles, no more pain, no more fighting. Carl’s father passed recently and the sermon given by the pastor still resonates with me. Basically, in a very Baptist way, he said that this world, your place on earth is but a temporary space. It is imperfect, unfair and unkind sometimes, but to take solace in the fact that passing brings you to a perfect realm. It is perfect. Knowing this in life means that the “best is yet to come” upon passing. Charlene is gone but she is now in this perfect realm. She is perfect. She is at peace, no more struggling, no more pain. We love you and Charlene.

Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 23, 2022 at 4:48 PM

Thank you so much! ❤

Love, Mama planted a tree in memory of Charlene Gapp

Friday, December 23, 2022

In loving memory of my wonderful daughter, Charlene. Our family is heartbroken, but we honor her memory. Our loss is Heaven's gain. We love you!

Patricia Alessio posted a condolence

Friday, December 23, 2022

I can't express how heartbroken we are to lose you, and so suddenly. There are so many wonderful memories, and sweet chats on the phone. You had such a zest for life, and an unprecedented kindness toward everyone. From the minute you were born, you brought joy to everyone who knew you. I will have to add more to this tribute, once I get my thoughts together. Our loss is Heaven's gain. So we look forward to being with you again. Love you forever! ❤ Mom

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Thursday, December 22, 2022

It still doesn’t feel real my friend and a part of me is still expecting a text from you to ask what size the kiddos are or how I’m doing. Your love for others was vast and for me especially was more than I deserved. 31 years of friendship was not enough. I’ll cherish all of our memories. Of creating a carnival in your backyard for Andrew. Of mopping the floor with sponges on our feet singing “in the middle of the night”. Of calling people from the pay phone outside the store. Of writing stories together, about leprechauns and medieval knights. Of ren fair shinanigans and puppets that I inevitably tangled up. Of so many nights where I was the butt of a joke so I could hear you laugh and say “oh kerrianne”. You loved me for so many years and you loved my kids so much, even though they didn’t get to spend time with you because of COVID and stupid cancer- They will know you and how much you meant to their mom. I hope you felt my love for you, even from far away these last few years. I will always keep your memory alive. I will cherish all of the literal things that you made for me and my kids (my mermaid blanket has been keeping me warm in my office). I will miss you for the rest of my life. Above all, I hope you are finally at peace and surrounded by the love we all feel for you. We are worse off without you (and your brownie recipe for that matter). No one will ever understand me like you did. I love you and I miss you.

Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 23, 2022 at 11:08 AM

Thank you so much, Kerri! This is beautiful! Please hug your family for me, and have a very Merry Christmas!

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Thursday, December 22, 2022

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Thursday, December 22, 2022

Hi dear... I know you'll never read this and that you didn't want your passing to be a production, but I wanted... need... to say good bye and I couldn't think of where else to do that but here. I can feel the empty space in my life where you were. It feels... Like part of my family is gone. That feeling of family I felt around you was so dear to me and, selfishly, I'm angry at its departure. There's so many reasons this isn't fair. I knew you didn't have forever, that the end was coming sooner than anyone who loved you was ready for. It shouldn't be as big of a surprise as it feels like it is. But here I am, bewildered that this has happened. I'm so grateful for the happy days we spent together, for the unconditional nature of your friendship and the beautiful person you have always been. I hope you are at peace, my dear friend. That the pain you have had to live with and the struggles you have had to endure are over now and you are at rest. The world is a darker place without you and I wish you were still here. I wish I got to see you one more time. I know we would have done the same things we always did, but I loved those things and I loved sharing that time with you. I know in my heart that having been able to spend it with you just once more would not ultimately have been enough. I would want you to be there while we potato'd during all the stages of our lives to come. It feels wrong knowing you won't be. And still, I wish we'd been able to do it all just once more. I will never forget you and I will miss you always. I am a better person for having had you in my life and my life is better than it would have been without your love and friendship. I love you.

Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 23, 2022 at 4:50 PM

Aty, thank you so much! What a sweet tribute! ❤

Kayleigh Gapp lit a candle

Thursday, December 22, 2022

My beautiful wife, I bless your name with every breath left inside of me. It's been an honor to stand by your side for these 22 years, to go through the highs and the lows with you, to make our way in this world knowing we had each other. I don't have the words to express how deeply you'll be missed, how much of me went with you, and how much of you has stayed with me. I love you, I love you, I love you. Be at rest, my sweet girl.

Maura Posted Dec 22, 2022 at 8:48 PM

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Thursday, December 22, 2022

Sweet, wonderful, talented, thoughtful, loving, caring, kind are all words synonymous with our sweet Charlene. So many wonderful memories were made and I am forever grateful you were apart of our life. We will love and miss you forever.

Maura Posted Dec 22, 2022 at 8:49 PM

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Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 23, 2022 at 1:16 PM

Thank you, Erica! That's Beautiful! ❤

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Thursday, December 22, 2022

Our sweet Charlene. The world was a better place with you in it, and you are going to be so missed. Thank you for all the good and kindness and love and laughter that you shared with us. We will love you always.

Patricia Alessio Posted Dec 23, 2022 at 1:17 PM

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A Memorial Tree was planted for Charlene Gapp

Thursday, December 22, 2022

We are deeply sorry for your loss ~ the staff at Herkimer Road Location - Heintz Funeral Service Inc.

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Thursday, December 22, 2022

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